Sunday, March 16, 2014

Terrific blogpost

Terrific blogpost from "Out of the Best Blogs" about my recent podcast with Natasha Helfer Parker and Dan Wotherspoon

Sunday, March 9, 2014


Strengthening Your Relationship Course and the Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Course Recordings are now available for purchase.  These classes, designed specifically for LDS Couples, are available in video form with accompanying outlines and assignments corresponding to each class (delivered electronically).  The two courses combined offer more than 20 hours of class instruction.  They are very popular and a cost-effective way to understand and attend to the challenges in your emotional and sexual relationship, while in the privacy and comfort of your own home.

Strengthening Your Relationship Course Content:
Class 1: The Universal Challenge of Emotional Intimacy
Class 2: Relational Losing Strategies: When and Why We Use Them.
Class 3: Defining Your Relational Dance: What You And Your Spouse Do to Interfere with Emotional Intimacy
Class 4: Relational Winning Strategies: Getting More of What You Want
Class 5: Effective Speaking: Boundaries and Empathy.
Class 6: Empathic Listening: Generosity and Accountability.
Classes are  65 to  95 minutes in length. 

Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Course Content
Class 1: Sexuality and Dissatisfaction: When sex isn't natural.
Class 2: Roadblocks to Sexual Desire: Psychological and Cultural Barriers.
Class 3: Roadblocks to Sexual Fulfillment: Reconciling Love and Desire.
Class 4: Understanding Your Relational Barriers to Passion.
Class 5: Claiming your Sexuality: The Will to Desire.
Class 6: Deepening The Passion: Solidifying Your Connection.
Class 7: Fantasy and Communication: Bringing Desires into the Relationship.
Classes are 60 to 100 minutes in length.

The Strengthening Your Relationship Course is an excellent foundation for the Enhancing Sexual Intimacy Course. While not required, it is recommended that you take the relationship course first or in conjunction with the sexuality course.
These courses are on-line. Therefore there will be a video element that allows you to see powerpoint slides, watch videos selected by the instructor to demonstrate principles, and see the instructor (me) throughout the class. 

Monthly "OFFICE HOURS" are now available when you can call in and speak with me to get input and feedback around specific principles in the class series. 

Please see the right-side column to purchase one or both courses.  If you have any questions about the courses, please send a message through my contact form.


"I've been meaning to write and thank you for both of your classes.  ... I can honestly say that your classes have invigorated and reinvented our marriage.   Both of us have been happier than we've been in years --- probably the happiest we've ever been.  Our daughter said to me recently that she noticed that my husband and i have been so much more positive and happy.  I cannot tell you how wonderful this all is!  Just know that you are doing really good, important, lasting work!  Thank you so much!  --- S.D.  2013 class participant.

"We've been going through your course, and feel we've started making much needed changes in our marriage.  We so appreciate the tools you're teaching us to use." --- J.L. 2013 class participant.

" I just started listening to the relationship course again.  They are SOOO good!  I have read SEVERAL dozen marriage / relationship books.  Other than John Gottman's books, these 2 courses are the best.  I feel they are really giving me something I can do.  ... Even though I do see some things that I can say "my wife is doing that", it is REALLY making me think hard about ME and MY role -- enough where I am now listening and not even thinking about her, but just about how I have contributed and where I need to change.  I expected that these wouldn't just be for my wife, but I am surprised at (with your insight and articulation) just how much I am focusing on myself".  --N.B.  2013 class participant. 

"Thank you for teaching this class.  We had a wonderful experience with both the "Strengthening Your Relationship" and the "Enhancing Sexuality" courses.  I found the assignments particularly helpful.  Going through them allowed me to process what I learned in the classes and apply it to myself.  Doing that helped me identify a lot of things I need to confront to improve my relationship to my own sexuality and my sexual connection with my husband.  I feel like I'm leaving the course with tools in my tool box to deal with my avoidance of sex, a problem I now see more clearly."  ---S.R. 2013 class participant.  

"Your course is super hard to go through, because I'm not focusing on what my spouse does.  For the first time I'm starting to see myself in a more real way and it hurts and is sobering, but it's also the first time I've really felt like 1) I know what's going on, and 2) what I can do about it.  Those two conundrums eluded me for many years.   

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us, and for being a real person when training us.  I particularly liked that you talked about your contribution when getting ready for church.  I've never heard a counselor (and I've talked to many by myself when I was younger) talk about themselves that way.  It was very helpful in allowing me to look at myself in a more honest way.   It's a very compassionate way to lead."  --- J.C.  2013 class participant. 

"I would have to say that my wife and I have a pretty amazing marriage.  We have known each other since we were six and dated through High School and she even waited for me through a mission.  So we took the Strengthening your Relationship Course with what I would say a very stable and loving marriage.  With that said, I think that through this course we have been able to reach a new, higher level of love and trust.  Jennifer was able to explain things that just made sense to both of us.  Each of her stories were relevant and powerful. She was able to combine the practical with the Spiritual in a seamless manner that inspired both of us to try and stretch by applying the principles that she taught.  From the lessons taught in this class we have been able to discuss things that we never thought we could talk about and from this we have become closer to each other.  We continue to tell everyone we can about this class and Jennifer's practice.  We can't thank Jennifer enough for her knowledge and willingness to share it with others.  This class was easy to participate in and made it possible to ask questions and express concerns without ever feeling embarrassed or afraid.  This class isn't just for those that are having problems.  Jennifer's classes are for every couple that wants to develop a more intimate relationship." --- H. H.  2013 class participant

Adding "OFFICE HOURS" for those who have Purchased the Course Recordings

I will be next available on June 28th at 8:30 Central Time via conference call to answer any questions you may have while going through the course material.  This is an opportunity to ask for examples or clarification on any of the concepts in the "Strengthening Your Relationship" or "Enhancing Sexual Intimacy" courses.  The conference call is free of charge and will be offered approximately once each month for those who have purchased the course recordings.

If you have purchased one or both of the course recordings, call in information will be sent to your email in the week prior to the call.  Put it on your calendar and write down questions you may have in the meantime.

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Podcast: "Mormonism's Modesty and Sexuality Discourse"

Dan Wootherspoon, host of "Mormon Matters" interviews me and Natasha Helfer Parker about the messaging around modesty and sexuality and how to teach our values in more productive ways:

Salt Lake Tribune Article on Modesty

"'Far from protecting females from seeking male approval, the rhetoric on modesty unwittingly reinforces it.  At the same time we are taught that pleasing men through sexual availability is unnecessary, we are taught to please men and God by covering and suppressing our sexuality.'  Either way women are sexual objects".

Peggy Fletcher Stack quotes my recent Exponent II article.